The LDS Daily WOOL© Archive - Husband/Wife Relationships

"...every man ought to regard his wife as a daughter of God, a daughter who is his equal, with whom he walks side by side. Marvelous is that concept that does not place a woman in an inferior position. One great man said a father can do nothing better for his children than to let them see that he loves their mother. Brethren, treat your wives with love and respect and kindness. And wives, you treat your husbands with love and respect and kindness."

"Excerpts from Recent Addresses of President Gordon B. Hinckley," 
"Ensign," July 1997, p. 72

"Be worthy of the mate you choose. Respect him or her. Give encouragement to him or her. Love your companion with all your heart. This will be the most important decision of your life, the individual whom you marry."

Gordon B. Hinckley 
"Life’s Obligations," 
"Ensign," Feb. 1999, p. 2

"The husband and father, a patriarch, is to preside in righteousness and exercise the power of his priesthood to bless his wife and family. The husband and wife serve as partners in governing their family, and both act in joint leadership and depend on each other. They are united in the vision of their eternal salvation, one holding the priesthood, the other honoring and enjoying the blessings of it. One is not superior or inferior to the other. Each one carries his or her respective responsibilities and acts in his or her respective role." 

Charles Didier
"Remember Your Covenants,"
"Ensign," May 1994, p. 44

"As a husband, he would live with respect for his wife, standing side by side with her, never belittling her nor demeaning her, but rather encouraging her in the continued development of her talents and in the church activities which are available to her. He would regard her as the greatest treasure of his life, one with whom he can share his concerns, his innermost thoughts, his ambitions and hopes. There would never be in that home any 'unrighteous dominion' of husband over wife (see D&C 121:37, 39), no assertion of superiority, no assertion of authority, but rather an expression in living which says that these two are equally yoked."

Gordon B. Hinckley
"To Please Our Heavenly Father,"
"Ensign," May 1985, p. 49

"For the greatest happiness and productivity in life, both husband and wife are needed. Their efforts interlock and are complementary. Each has individual traits that best fit the role the Lord has defined for happiness as a man or woman. When used as the Lord intends, those capacities allow a married couple to think, act, and rejoice as one—to face challenges together and overcome them as one, to grow in love and understanding, and through temple ordinances to be bound together as one whole, eternally. That is the plan."

Richard G. Scott 
"The Joy of Living the Great Plan of Happiness," 
"Ensign," Nov. 1996, p. 74

"If time and the realities of everyday life have eroded your recollections of what you felt and received when you were sealed, you should return to the temple and participate again as proxies for the departed in that same sealing ordinance. Take advantage of that opportunity. Do it together as husband and wife. In this manner you may deepen your understanding of the covenants you made and renew the promises you received on that day when you were sealed as eternal companions."

David B. Haight 
"Come to the House of the Lord," 
"Ensign," May 1992, p. 17

"At times it is better to leave some things unsaid. As a newlywed, Sister Lola Walters read in a magazine that in order to strengthen a marriage, a couple should have regular, candid sharing sessions in which they would list any mannerisms they found to be annoying. She wrote:

"'We were to name five things we found annoying, and I started off.... I told him that I didn't like the way he ate grapefruit. He peeled it and ate it like an orange! Nobody else I knew ate grapefruit like that. Could a girl be expected to spend a lifetime, and even eternity, watching her husband eat grapefruit like an orange?...

"'After I finished [with my five], it was his turn to tell the things he disliked about me.... [He] said, 'Well, to tell the truth, I can't think of anything I don't like about you, Honey.'


"'I quickly turned my back, because I didn't know how to explain the tears that had filled my eyes and were running down my face.'

"Sister Walters concluded: 'Whenever I hear of married couples being incompatible, I always wonder if they are suffering from what I now call the Grapefruit Syndrome' (Ensign, Apr. 1993, p. 13).

"Yes, at times, it is better to leave some things unsaid." - Joe J. Christensen, "Marriage and the Great Plan of Happiness," Ensign, May 1995, 65

“We must realize, first of all, that marriage is a holy relationship designed by our Heavenly Father for the divine purpose of perfecting us and those who follow us. This is done in part by the husband and wife learning to love and respect each other as they should and in rearing children in the manner prescribed by the Lord.” - Elray L. Christiansen, “Conference Report,” October 1965, Afternoon Meeting, p. 75

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